Friday, December 16, 2011

What is He Thinking?

How many women have gone out with a man, gotten closer to him, thought he was everything she'd ever hoped for only to be highly disappointed when he changes?

Believe it or not, a man has a process to dating. They are as slow as molasses when it comes to commitment.

When a man goes out with you for the first time he may asks for a second date. This means he likes you enough to want to get to know you better. He IS NOT thinking of commitment at this point. He is still in the "I wanna have fun" stage. However, as women, we may be thinking of seeing this man exclusively. This is where women bomb and can easily get hurt.

The answer is, "Go slow if you want him." Whether you know he's the one or not, don't allow him into your every thought. Don't add any pressure. Men already feel pressured when they meet someone they "like." And whatever you do, don't assume he's ready after a week or two to give up his Saturday night's with his buddies. Although you may hope he'll take you out for dinner, if he doesn't, don't let him see this bothers you. Go out and have fun with the girls. You'll become more attractive to him, much like the cat and the mouse game.

Any relationship that has chemistry will naturally escalate to the next level, without pressure. 

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