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Tuesday, November 1, 2022

Bras and Friendships by Rhonda Lee Carver

 As we age, two things become very important, friendships and bras...and not just any will do.

Bras (and friendships) should be comfortable, secure and supportive. If you want to throw your bra (or friend) out of a moving vehicle, then it's fair to say the bra (friend) isn't the right fit. When it comes to bras it's okay to be picky and look for the perfect match, because not all bras are created equal. A good bra can take some effort to find, and can be expensive, but when it fits, you'll never want to take it off.

There are different bras for different situations...

Some bras make you feel beautiful, sexy, confident. Some make you feel like you can run a marathon and they'll have your back--or rather, breasts. When you're lucky, you'll find one that checks all the boxes. They come far and few between.

There are many types of bras

Bralette

Nursing bra

Balconette

Corset

Underwire

Bandeau

Push-up

Full cup

Sprts

Demi

Need I go on?

The point is, why settle for something that pinches, is unsupportive, doesn't fit, wears down, and exposes your secrets to everyone?

What's always comforting? Secure? And makes you feel wonderful?

A good book...

Have you read my latest release, All Cowboy and a Holiday Bride? This is book 6 and the final book in the Brother of Dove Grey Series.

Buy here


A Marriage of Convenience will turn into a Holiday Romance...with a surprise baby.

Sadie Locke has always been great at giving her friends relationship advice, but when it comes to her own love life not so much. That's why she's not looking for forever. She and Channing have been secretly carrying on a fling for months, but everything's about to change. And boy does Santa have his work cut out for him...

Channing Dawson has life just the way he likes it. His business is thriving. And he and Sadie have a no-strings “friendlationship”. What more could a man want? After his brother passed away, he didn't dare risk loving and losing again. Yet, his heart is speaking a different holiday tune.

Sadie pulls a fast one and makes him her husband. A marriage of convenience or not, the rules are all blurred. He isn’t sure about having a holiday bride, until he realizes he's had feelings for her all along. Sometimes the risk is worth it all. He could get used to sharing Christmas with her, but does she feel the same? Her secrets, and she has plenty, might ruin any chance they have for a future.

Then he receives the unexpected gift of a lifetime...


“Don’t fall in love,” Sadie Locke sashayed out of the bathroom, bringing with her the fresh scent of soap and woman. “Now that we’ve taken our first shower together.”

“That’s what you’re worried about? I asked to take a shower with you and now I’m a risk for falling in love?” Channing Dawson chuckled then hauled himself up out of bed and grabbed his rumpled jeans off the floor. “Ain’t happening. I could never love a water hog.”

She captured him in her pale grey gaze. “I’m not worried about things going off the grid. I’m just listing the rules. We don’t want this to get messy. And sorry, that bathroom is as big as a broom closet and I’m claustrophobic.”

“This is an old hunting cabin. We’re lucky it has a toilet, let alone a shower. I have an idea though.” He used his thumbnail to scratch his temple.

“You do? What’s that?”

 “We could always start meeting at your house. I bet your bathroom, and bed, is plenty big enough.” He didn’t expect a response to his question, and she didn’t disappoint.

“I’m grateful this place has indoor plumbing. The mornings are getting nippy.”

“Just so we’re clear, you don’t have to recite the “rules” every time we get together like I have a kindergarten education. Sex-only is self-explanatory. We meet up three times a week, have a good time, and then we go about our own business.”

“Do I sense some sarcasm in your tone?” She flicked an eyebrow as she recapped the whiskey bottle they were passing between them last night.

 “Nope. I’m capable of keeping my heart, and dick, in two different lanes.”

“Good news because I really like what we have here.”

 Channing tried to conceal his relief. He wanted a relationship even less than she did. “Maybe you’re the one who needs reminded. You did seem pretty in love while you were screaming my name. I guess we should be grateful this cabin’s in the middle of nowhere otherwise the Sheriff might fine us for disturbing the peace.”

“Don’t let this,” she pointed at the bed, “go to your head, cowboy. I make lots of noise because I’m what they call hyper-sensitive.” One corner of her mouth played tug-of-war with a smile.

“I won’t argue that you’re sensitive, but no denying, we have chemistry.” 


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Thursday, August 25, 2022

What I won't be doing this year (Part 2)

 What I won't be doing this year...



1. Stay quiet.

When I look back on how many times I've kept quiet when someone I care for has been mistreated I'm sickened. That's why I refuse to be bulldozed. Sitting back and going with the flow works for some people. Hats off to you, but this chic can't. I respect you for patience so please respect me for pointing out the "wrongs". This doesn't make me a bitch. Or "one of those people". 


2. Make excuses.

Have you ever met someone who has an excuse for everything? Do you ever just want to shout at them to "Take accountability!" I've been there. If something is bad, it's bad. I stop making excuses for people who are doing wrong and feel they can. In our society we have a set of people, leaders possibly, that can sell a desert to an Alaskan just by using reasons and excuses as selling points. 


3. Miss a chance to make a new friend(s).

As a woman, I need friendship. I crave a woman's perspective. However, maybe it's just me, but maintaining friendship can leave us stripped and vulnerable. If I'm quiet, that means I'm hurting. It doesn't mean I'm mad at you or an asshole. Many times in life I've had worries, issues, concerns, problems that I'm juggling. If our relationship is so fragile that my distance leaves you raw, then you're probably not my friend anyway. This is why I feel it's necessary to branch out. Take risks. Be the one who makes the first move. Trust me, there will be a lot of rejection, but in friendship it only takes one good one to make your world shine.


4. Pretend I don't need help.

This sort of is attached to number 3. I know a person who feels very vulnerable accepting help. Okay...it's me. I've always found it difficult to reach out and ask for something. There have been moments when I've been suffocating in responsibility and refused to ask someone for their advice, help, or a simple hug. When my kids were first born (I had preeclampsia with both girls) I was so sick. I had no energy. I wasn't eating (because who had time). NO sleep (I was breastfeeding). And dealing with the symptoms of a high BP because mine hung on like a feather on tape. I look back and think why the hell didn't I ask someone for help? Or accept the help I was offered?  Or the times I struggled getting my kids where they needed to go. And the time I found a knot in my breast (turned out to be a cyst) and what I wouldn't have given to have the support of one my friends. Maybe I would have been rejected, or maybe I wouldn't have been. Unless we ask, we'll never know.


5. Kiss ass.

Yep, and there it is. Do I need to explain further? Probably not so I'll leave that right there.


Rhonda Lee Carver is a bestselling author of contemporary romance novels. She is the proud mother of three wonderful children and admits on a daily basis that she "doesn't" have life figured out.

Monday, November 22, 2021

Recipe for Thanksgiving





 

 Now is the time. 
The time is now.

             And every present moment is now.

Let that sink in... 
 

 Every "NOW" of our lives should hold thankfulness. The season of Thanksgiving and gratitude that deserves proper recognition is upon us. New memories are ready to be made and loved ones should be held near and dear. 

 

I am thankful for all of my readers, supporters and lovers of cowboy romance. Those who have given me a chance to be in their lives through my characters and stories.

 

I am also grateful for all my family and friends.  What would life be without them? I am so blessed!  

One of my favorite aspects of Thanksgiving is the old heartwarming traditions that I have the honor of carrying on each year and the new traditions we get to make and hand down for generations to come. This is what makes Thanksgiving great and worth all the fuss we make over everything being perfect and photo-worthy for all our social media posts. 

A special Thanksgiving tradition in our family is breakfast. This year I'll be making Wales Dawson Cowboy Potato Breakfast. This is a tribute to my newest book, All Cowboy and Heart. It is so delicious and pretty simple to make. This recipe is perfect if you just need something to hold everyone over and away from the rolls until turkey is ready to serve and all you guests have arrived for dinner. 

Wales Dawson Cowboy Breakfast 
 
5 potatoes washed & cut into 1/2 inch cubed.
1 diced green pepper
1 diced red pepper
1 diced red onion 
1 sprig of rosemary
Sauté peppers and onions in 2 Tablespoons of butter until tender 
toss in rosemary
set aside 
Next: add 1/2 inch of oil to skillet and heat 
add cubed potatoes  carefully and evenly.  
 Sprinkle with salt, pepper and garlic powder. Do not turn potatoes until golden brown on one side. Then turn to brown other side
When potatoes are browned and tender, add the pepper and onion mixture and crack 5 eggs over top.
 
Once eggs begin to cook then gently stir eggs into mixture until the eggs are  cooked to your desire.
Sprinkle cheddar cheese, sliced green onions and cilantro over the top. or leave it on the side to add as desired
Serve with a dollop of sour cream and enjoy a breakfast filling enough to sustain the hungriest of cowboys. 
  Get creative!! 
Add your own personal touch...
Here are a few suggestions... 
 
Jalapenos, mushrooms, a breakfast protein or even slices of avocado. The options are endless. 
 
 It's sure to be a family favorite!




 

Hired by a ticked off wife who needs a private investigator to catch her husband with his pants down, Wales Dawson catches more than a cheating cowboy. One night with a stranger and a surprise baby leads to unexpected dreams.

Dustina “Dusty” Cavanaugh has been around rough and tough cowboys all her life. She has two unwavering rules. One, don’t mix business with pleasure. Two, never, EVER, believe anything that a cowboy says right after an eight second ride. Then she blows it over a charming, handsome cowboy. He gives her a night to remember…and a positive pregnancy test.

Wales couldn’t get the sexy brunette off his mind. She’d embedded herself in his veins and her memory kept popping up—in more ways than one. When she shows up in Dove Grey to do a story on his brother, Cade Dawson, Wales is torn between his feelings for Dusty and keeping his head, and heart, on track. A cowboy is supposed to be tough, but she tests his durability.

Then she drops the “P” bomb.

Before he can wrap his head around the pregnancy, tragedy strikes. Surprises unravel--some good and some devastating. Will their growing love detonate or will an unforeseen presence bring them together to live happily ever after?


Pre-order here! 


Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Do people change?

Have you ever been with someone and thought to yourself, "He would be a great catch if only he could change ______." Or, have you ever been guilty of saying, "I can't change who I am."  Interesting that people will look at a loved one and wish, or even ask, that they change when we don't expect the same out of ourselves.

But I guess I wonder, do people change or do they adapt? 

There is a huge difference. Imagine two people, married for years, and everyday for five years the wife has asked the husband to pick up his dirty socks off the floor or to lower the lid on the toilet. Then, one day, the wife stops asking and picks up the socks or lowers the lid herself. Is that change or adapting? How about if the tables were turned? After being asked on so many occasions to do these things, he finally starts to do them without being asked. Has he changed or adapted to his wife's requests?

Is it possible there is something much deeper here? Could it be that the wife loves her husband enough to tolerate the bad habits? Could it be that the husband loves his wife enough to do as she asks? 

Change, in my opinion, means one transforms into something else. For instance, a man likes pizza but one day wakes up and no longer likes it. He has changed. Adapting to me means, the man enjoys pizza but after he learns he has high cholesterol he can no longer eat pizza.  He has adapted to the situation. He's not a different person.

If we believe a person can't change, but only adapts, this makes me wonder, will he revert back to his 'old' self?

What role does love play in this? I've seen men and women uncover a new person within themselves when love knocks at their door. Is it possible for people to change?