Believe it or not, there's a right way and a wrong way to talk sexy. Have you ever wondered if you're talented in sex talk 101? As a writer, I sometimes hit the mark with some great sexy language, and other times, ehh, I didn't do so well.
Here are a few suggestions:
1. Be yourself. If you start to mimic an actor in a movie then you're going to start sounding like you're playing a role. Not good when you're wanting to be authentic.
2. Find your voice. You know how writers are always told to find our voice? Well, there's a "voice" in sex talk also. Find your tone of voice that sounds sexy. Whisper soft or gruff and rough...one tone doesn't fit all.
3. Build your vocabulary. Most of us don't talk dirty. The chances are limited. After all, how often do we get to dig into our brain vocabulary and pull out words like pussy, cock, banging, sucking...you get the idea. If your vocabulary stinks, search sexy words on Google. They may feel a little awkward on your "baby" tongue, but you'll get used to using them, but please, only when the time is fitting.
4. Dirty talk is for two. Once you start feeling comfortable using "sex language," your partner will follow suit. The idea of sex talk is to flirt and tease, not see who can curse like a sailor.
5. Rules. Make them, and choose them wisely. Sexy is great. Nasty is not. Be aware of your boundaries when it comes to talking dirty. What some women find appealing, others won't.
Here are a few suggestions:
1. Be yourself. If you start to mimic an actor in a movie then you're going to start sounding like you're playing a role. Not good when you're wanting to be authentic.
2. Find your voice. You know how writers are always told to find our voice? Well, there's a "voice" in sex talk also. Find your tone of voice that sounds sexy. Whisper soft or gruff and rough...one tone doesn't fit all.
3. Build your vocabulary. Most of us don't talk dirty. The chances are limited. After all, how often do we get to dig into our brain vocabulary and pull out words like pussy, cock, banging, sucking...you get the idea. If your vocabulary stinks, search sexy words on Google. They may feel a little awkward on your "baby" tongue, but you'll get used to using them, but please, only when the time is fitting.
4. Dirty talk is for two. Once you start feeling comfortable using "sex language," your partner will follow suit. The idea of sex talk is to flirt and tease, not see who can curse like a sailor.
5. Rules. Make them, and choose them wisely. Sexy is great. Nasty is not. Be aware of your boundaries when it comes to talking dirty. What some women find appealing, others won't.
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