For many women it's not easy to admit what we want in the bedroom, or what excites us. Some of us believe our fantasy lover will come along and he'll know exactly what we want, when we want it and how long to keep it up. *chuckling* For someone to know us so completely and fully they'd have to be a mind-reader. I haven't met a person yet who can, although women seem at times to have the ability to know what you're thinking and what you'll do next. That's honed intuition.
Okay, I'm getting sidetracked--uh-hm...
That leads me to ask, "Are YOU your partner's ideal lover? The WOMAN/MAN of his/her fantasies? And do you want to be?" Each and every one of us have the talent of filling his/her mind with only you.
Okay, so where do you start?
Everyday is a chance to be romantic. Thinking romance starts only in the bedroom is a huge--HUGE--mistake. A glance, a touch, a kiss, a note, a naughty text all contribute to the feeling of being wanted. Something simple done now can spark a fire later on.
Shower before bed. I enjoy the fresh scent of man when he steps out of the shower (wow--you too?). Those droplets of water still clinging to his body isn't so bad either. Man or woman, the scent of a clean body can make your partner want to dry you off with the bed sheets. there are so many titillating scents of body washes. Find one that your lover really enjoys.
Go ahead, talk dirty. Let your partner know what you want. Sure, it may be difficult, but one word, one moan, can send your lover working harder. Isn't that exactly what we want?
Read Romance. For those who are unsure of what to do or how to do it, pick up a book. Romance books are full of, well, romance. The roller coaster of emotion, conflict, sexual tension can be exactly what you need to kick start the missing flame. And...reading helps the mind be creative.
Do the dishes. This is especially for men. I'm not saying that in any household women are the main dishwashers, but in any case, I think most women appreciate a man who isn't afraid to get his hands wet. And women, do something you'd normally not do. I'm not saying go and change the oil in his car (unless you can, if so, you're a bad-ass chick). Offer to shave his face (or his groin if you dare). Or, maybe wash his car. Men also like women wet.
No matter what, enjoy one another.